As a therapist and the mother of three teenagers myself, I know firsthand that the more you push your kids, the more they get defensive and dig in their heels. They become reactive in the form of explosiveness or shutting down and ignoring you. Clamming up or exploding are both ways your teenagers attempt to manage their stress and defend themselves. In fact, these may be the only ways your teen knows how to communicate when things get intense—which of course only causes more conflict. You find your child online chatting with her friends when she is supposed to be doing her schoolwork. You and your child are living in two different realities.
Do not judge your teenager
Frame it differently
It can be hard to get kids to agree to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist. In fact this is a common stumbling block for many parents of teenagers struggling with anything from anxiety to ADHD , depression , or an eating disorder. Adolescents need to want to get better, and be willing to work with someone to make that happen.
2. Don’t Get Emotional Or Take It Personally
You've lived through 2 a. So why is the word "teenager" causing you so much worry? When you consider that the teen years are a period of intense growth, not only physically but emotionally and intellectually, it's understandable that it's a time of confusion and upheaval for many families. Despite some adults' negative perceptions about teens, they are often energetic, thoughtful, and idealistic, with a deep interest in what's fair and right. So, although it can be a period of conflict between parent and child, the teen years are also a time to help kids grow into the distinct individuals they will become. So when does adolescence start? Everybody's different — there are early bloomers, late arrivers, speedy developers, and slow-but-steady growers. In other words, there's a wide range of what's considered normal.
Back to Mental health and wellbeing. Follow these tips to help get them talking to you about their worries. Show them you respect their intelligence and are curious about the choices they've made. If you do not pre-judge their behaviour as "stupid" or "wrong", they're more likely to open up and explain why their actions made sense to them. Do not assume that you know what's wrong. Rather than asking "Are you being bullied? You do not seem your usual self, and I wondered what's going on with you at the moment? Is there anything I can help with? If you suspect your child is using drugs or drinking excessively, be gentle but direct.